Not Broken…Becoming

A space for slowing down, softening, and rebuilding in small, intentional ways

Tag: self-esteem

  • Becoming okay with being unpolished

    I have been sitting on this post for…a few days. Not for any real reason…The excitement from my first return post had worn off, the “what ifs” had set in, and the next thing I knew I was procrastinating on sharing any of the ideas I had written in my notebook.

    So.

    Here I am, at 11:45 on a Friday night, sharing these words with you.

    Affirmations, really. From the Third Eye Affirmations app, and the I Am app. There have been quite a few lately that I’ve taken screenshots of, and I wanted to share some of the ones that have really stuck out to me.

    They stuck out not because they seem generic, but because they would pop up in the widget right when I was having thoughts about the exact opposite. When I would doubt myself, if I’d ever reach my goals, if I’d ever stick with this consistently. When I’d wonder if anyone would actually read or care about the words I wrote.

    These affirmations would do just that…affirm. Encourage me to not give up, to keep writing even if it’s not perfect.

    So now I share them with you; because maybe they’ll resonate with you like they have with me. Maybe not in the exact same way, but in *some* way.

    *My validation comes from myself.

    * I notice when I’m being too hard on myself and I soften. I speak to myself in a way that actual helps me grow. Kindness is more effective than criticism.

    * I don’t need to be perfect to be worthy of respect or love. I’m allowed to be a work in progress. That doesn’t make me less, it makes me real.

    * It’s okay to set my own boundaries.

    * My personal growth journey is something to be proud of.

    * I give myself permission to b imperfect and human.

    * I trust that what I’m building will take time. I don’t rush the process just to feel ahead. I’m focused on creating something that actually lasts.

    * I am becoming more comfortable being seen as I really am. I don’t need to perform or filter myself to be accepted. The right people will resonate with the real version of me.

    * My contributions to the world are valuable and meaningful.

    * I let go of the need to control every outcome. Not everything requires my interference to work out. Sometimes the best things I can do is trust and allow.

    * I am worthy of achieving great things in life.

    * I am learning to be patient with my own process. Growth doesn’t always look dramatic, but it’s happening. I give myself credit for the progress I don’t always see.

    * I embrace my creativity as an essential part of who I am (this one really hit home when I was doubting my writing ability).

    There you have it. Are there any that I’ve shared that stuck out to you as well? Do you have any affirmations of your own that you use on a daily basis? Let me know in the comments down below.

  • What do You do when God Speaks to You?

    Last week I was on a walk as part of a cardio requirement for the challenge I’m currently participating in at my gym. Normally I listen to music to pass the time and to help me stay motivated, but this time I decided to go into Audible and download a book to listen to from my library. The book I chose to read is called “Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts” by Jennie Allen; and I’m so glad that I was led to start this one because it’s been really good so far, it’s an easy book to listen to (this book is read by the author, and I find her voice pleasant to listen to), and there are a few parts that I can relate to already (and I’m only on Chapter 9)!

    In the first few chapters, Jennie talks about the scripture Psalm 139, and how God used it as a reminder that no matter where we are or what we’ve done, He will be there for us. I went to my own Bible and read this passage for myself, and received a few much needed affirmations about God and how He feels about me.

    Have you ever had those moments where the Spirit is trying to tell you something, and you’re only kind of listening so He continues to impress onto your mind to LISTEN to what He has to say, and also write it down so you can go back and read it over as a reminder when needed? I had a moment like that a day or so after I started reading this book.

    I was finishing up reading my devotional for the morning, when I thought back to Psalm 139 and the verse that says, “Where shall I go from your spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence?”. A thought occurred to me that I tried to push away, thinking it was a distraction. However as the thought revealed itself more, I realized that God was trying to tell me something and so I listened. Then He told me to write it down, to which I said no at first (I know, I know…). When you hear “No, you NEED to write this down” in your head…You write that thought down no questions asked!

    Here is what God had to tell me, which further affirmed that He IS here for me, NO MATTER WHAT, WHERE, or WHO I try to use as an “escape” because I didn’t believe that I was enough or deserved anything good:

    I’m sharing this because we all have dark parts of ourselves that we believe can’t be reached or healed by God. We’ve done things we’re ashamed of and don’t believe that God will love us because of them. I’m especially sharing because of the last few phrases; let these serve as reminders and affirmations for you whenever you because they ARE true!!

    I AM WORTHY

    I AM LOVED

    I AM WANTED

    If you can, read Psalm 139 and allow God to speak to the broken parts you keep hidden from Him. HE IS THERE FOR YOU!


    I hope this message blesses and encourages you 💜 Feel free to comment and share with someone else who needs to hear a few words of affirmation and encouragement!